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Start Early
Lovemaking doesn’t start when you crawl in between the sheets. It
starts before you even get out of bed. What you do throughout the
day either enhances or decreases your chance for intimacy. Kiss
before leaving for work. Meet for lunch. Call in the middle of the
day. Smile at each other. Little things go a long way in getting you
and your partner in the mood.
Pay
Attention to Touch
If your partner has ever said, “The only time you touch me is when
you want to have sex,” you are not paying attention to non-sexual
touch. When there is a lot of non-sexual touch, it makes sexual
touch more exciting and more desirable. Non-sexual touch can be
rubbing her shoulders or feet as you watch a movie, resting your
hand on his lap while driving, or holding hands.
Look Good
If 100 people wrote their top ten turn-ons, I bet that 99% of them
listed something relating to how a person looks. So keep looking
good! Forget about, “If he loved me, he would love me even in
sweats.” He might love you is sweats, but he won’t be as turned on.
Smell Good
Smelling good is sexy. When your partner smells good, it makes you
want to get closer. When you are close, chemical reactions can
happen and ignite a fire! Really! I am talking about pheromones, the
chemical Viagra. If you’ve seen male dogs rather ‘round a female in
heat, you know the power of pheromones. Being too sweaty can cancel
out and mask their effectiveness. So be clean and let the “love
scent” do its work.
Master the Art of Good Conversation
People stop talking when they feel the other isn’t listening. This
is a major intimacy killer. When share your inner thoughts and
feelings or listen while your partner speaks of his day, you create
intimacy that is needed for good sex.
Share activities
If your partner wants to do something or go somewhere, tag along.
The more time you spend together, the more opportunity you have to
cozy up, touch, and have good conversation. A pleasant day spent
with the one you love is a powerful aphrodisiac.
Schedule Time for Romance
Knowing that you have a date can heighten anticipation and make
lovemaking more fun.
Be
Spontaneous
You can plan and be spontaneous too. Add some spice by dressing
differently, putting on a wig, talking with an accent, or going
somewhere on a whim. Fantasize and take your fun where you find it.
Take Care of Yourself
When you are rested and fit, you will have more energy and desire
for love so you can give and receive more.
Let
go in bed
Forget about kids, work, or your “to do” list. Turn off the brain
activity and let lovemaking be your escape. It will help you unwind,
refresh, and keep you looking forward to the next time!
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